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Friday, May 19, 2017

When’s the Right Time to Have Sex In a Relationship?


How long should you wait to have sex? Nearly 50 percent of straight couples in a new survey reported holding out one week to a month before getting it on with their partners.

What’s more, 21 percent of the couples waited up to two months and 10 percent waited up to half a year to have sex, according to the survey of 1,000 Americans and Europeans from DrEd.com. Only 18 percent of the men and women surveyed reported waiting less than a week to have sex.

That first time matters because sex is an incredibly vulnerable act, says relationship therapist Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D.

“This is because people bring the whole of their past sexual and romantic relationships into their present ones,” he says.

That’s a lot of pressure, especially if you have anxiety about forming a new relationship or being intimate with someone new, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. But you can never move past your nerves until you just do the damn thing, right?

That got us thinking: Is there ever really a perfect moment to seal the deal?

Kerner and Hokemeyer both agree that it totally depends on the individual, and there are pros and cons to both having sex early on or choosing to wait a couple of months. Whether or not commitment matters is up to you, but even if you go in thinking she’s just a fling—keep in mind that your partner is still a person with thoughts, feelings, and a body that should be respected, says Hokemeyer.

One-night stands can even help you find the one. In fact, one in three marriages began with a hookup, according to research from the University of Virginia. Having sex early on in your relationship can help you feel bonded to that person, says Kerner, and it’s a great way to figure out if you’re romantically compatible or not.

But doing it too early can also be detrimental if it goes wrong, adds Hokemeyer.

“You could be inebriated, stressed, anxious, or overly stimulated. And while its certainly possible to make up for a bad first impression, it could be embarrassing and take a while to get over,” he says.

That’s why some people prefer to wait. Plus, giving yourself time to get to know your partner will only enhance the experience later on, says Kerner. Postponing sex can build anticipation, which lights up reward centers in your brain, he explains.

“I know plenty of couples that did a bit of a courtship dance around sex and took the slow road,” he says. “They learned to appreciate each other, and they learned to enjoy kissing, touch, oral sex, and all of those activities that don’t get consumed by intercourse.”

And that helped them appreciate the real thing that much more when it finally happened, he says.

But being forced to wait can get frustrating. So what if you don’t want to wait, but your partner does—or vice versa?

Well, it’s not completely up to you, says Kerner. Sex has to be a consensual act and ultimately, pleasure requires being relaxed and feeling good about your partner, he says. If your partner wants to wait, just let him or her know how much you’re looking forward to it to build the anticipation, he suggests.

Plus, the more comfortable your partner feels, the better it will be. 

But knowing your personal limit is important, too: “If you want to have sex now, tell her,” says Hokemeyer. “Then let her respond, listen to what she has to say, then consider it as you move forward in the relationship. It’s also okay to cut bait after a set period of time. No one wants to be bread-crumbed away from other romantic and sexual opportunities.”

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SOURCE: Men's Health

8 Ways to Stay Energized All Day

It's no wonder so many of us struggle with energy issues. We go, go, go from morning to night, running on little but grit and caffeine. But it doesn't have to be that way. "The reality is, you can get a real boost by making a few simple changes," says Dr. Nada Milosavljevic, director of the integrative health program at Massachusetts General Hospital. That's why we put together this complete guide to all-day energy: It's packed with proven strategies that will keep you powered up as you plow through your to-do list. You'll also learn about surprising energy drains (social media, we're looking at you)—and how to keep them from stealing your mojo.


Keep allergies under control


People with hay fever often feel sluggish. "You spend so much time trying to breathe, you don't have energy for anything else," says New Jersey-based allergist Dr. Neeta Ogden, spokesperson for the American College of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology. Your congestion might also keep you awake at night: French researchers found that more than 40 percent of seasonal-allergy sufferers reported they weren't able to get a good night's sleep when their symptoms flared.

Studies have shown that over-the-counter nasal steroid sprays (like Nasacort and Flonase) effectively relieve congestion and improve quality of life—including fatigue and sleep issues—in people with seasonal allergies. Ogden suggests pairing a spray with a daily dose of an OTC nonsedating antihistamine (such as Claritin or Allegra); the drug will block the action of histamine, the compound that triggers pesky nasal symptoms. For best results, begin treatment a couple of weeks before sniffle season starts.

Get enough (quality) sleep

It's estimated that up to 26 percent of all adults in the U.S. have sleep apnea, a disorder that involves shallow breathing or pauses in breathing while you sleep. If you're among them, you may often feel like you're in a "brain fog," even if you're clocking seven hours of shut-eye a night. If your primary care physician suspects sleep apnea, she can refer you to a sleep center. Most cases can be diagnosed with an at-home test, says Dr. Raj Dasgupta, professor of sleep medicine at the University of Southern California and spokesperson for the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. Mild cases can often be treated with lifestyle modifications, such as losing weight and avoiding alcohol before bed. Moderate or severe cases may require sleeping with a continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) machine, which supplies a steady stream of air to keep your airways open.

Exercise

A sweat session is great for upping your oomph, even when you feel like you're out of juice. "When you exercise, you release hormones like adrenaline. This hormone actually tells our bodies to ignore feelings of pain and fatigue while enhancing blood flow to large muscles," says Sabrena Jo, senior exercise scientist at the American Council on Exercise. As a result, a workout can leave you with more energy than you had beforehand—an effect that can last several hours.

And it doesn't take much. One study looked at healthy, sedentary people who began exercising three days a week for just 20 minutes a day, at either a moderate or a low intensity. By the end of six weeks, their energy levels were 20 percent higher than those of a control group of nonexercisers.

Remember: The idea is to leave the gym energized, not exhausted. "If you feel beaten down by the time you step off the treadmill, it's a sign you need to scale back," says Jo.

Get adequate vitamin D

Research suggests this key vitamin plays a role in keeping us charged up. Experts suspect D helps regulate insulin secretion and metabolism, both of which affect energy levels. The nutrient has also been linked to better moods (not to mention a slew of other health benefits). If you find yourself constantly dragging, particularly in the winter, it might be worth asking your doc to check your D levels. Since it can be tough to get an adequate amount from food (sources include fatty fish, eggs, and fortified milk), she may recommend a supplement.

Purge your Facebook friends

There are two reasons social media can be an energy suck, says Dr. Brian Primack, director of the Center for Research on Media, Technology and Health at the University of Pittsburgh. "On one hand, you look at everyone's curated photos and get depressed because your life doesn't look so perfect," he explains. "But on the other hand, anything that's negative also gets magnified. Neither extreme is good." Indeed, one of his studies found a link between the amount of time spent on social media and the likelihood of depression.

Not ready to cut the Facebook cord? Try paring your "friends" down to your actual friends. "When you don't know someone, you're more likely to have a miscommunication or be upset by something in their feed," says Primack. "But using social media to connect with old friends can have the opposite effect—it's energizing."

Eat to fuel

To improve your everyday energy, try this tweak: Substitute plant protein for animal protein whenever possible, suggests Samantha Heller, a registered dietitian at the NYU School of Medicine. Plants feed the "good" bacteria in your gut, she explains, which help boost your immunity to keep you healthy. They may also boost overall mood. A 2015 study found that people who followed a plant-based eating program for 18 weeks saw an increase in their productivity. Here, Heller describes a sample menu for an ideal day.

Breakfast: A Berry smoothie. Blend 1/2 cup berries with a scoop of avocado and 3/4 cup soy milk. The shake is high in both fiber and protein to stabilize your blood sugar until lunch.

Lunch: Lentil soup and kale salad. Lentils and kale are a mighty nutritional combo, offering protein, fiber, iron, potassium, zinc, folate, and more.

P.M. snack: Fruit and nuts. This duo serves up a nice balance of carbohydrates, protein, and fat to help you power through the rest of the afternoon.

Dinner: Vegetarian tacos. Wrap beans with shredded lettuce and cheese, chopped tomato, avocado, and salsa in a corn tortilla for a light dinner that won't mess with your sleep.

Try some fast pick-me-ups

Take a mini break. Stand up and stretch, or watch a funny video. University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign researchers found that people who took two short breaks during a repetitive 50-minute task performed better than those who worked straight through.

Go for a quick walk. A landmark study published in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology revealed that a brisk 10-minute walk can have a revitalizing effect, enhancing energy for at least two hours.

Chew a stick of gum. A 2015 U.K. study found that this trick raised alertness and improved concentration, possibly because chewing increases blood flow.

Don't ignore fatigue

Sometimes feeling spent isn't a problem that can be solved with a nap. Below are a few possible medical explanations for flagging energy.

Anemia. This condition, common in women, means you don't have enough healthy red blood cells to carry adequate oxygen to your tissues. If blood tests reveal you're anemic, you may need to take an iron supplement.

Celiac disease. Fatigue is one of the symptoms of this serious condition, in which an autoimmune reaction to gluten damages the intestines. If blood tests suggest celiac, you'll need an intestinal biopsy to diagnose it. The only proven therapy is a gluten-free diet.

Hypothyroidism. "If your body isn't producing enough thyroid hormone, you're going to feel like you're running low on fuel all the time," says Milosavljevic. This disorder can be treated with synthetic hormones.

Heart disease. A 2003 study published in Circulation found that 70 percent of women who'd suffered heart attacks had reported feeling unusual fatigue for up to a month beforehand. "Patients often say that they feel tired in their chest," says Dr. Dana Simpler, an internist at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore. After a full workup, your doc can prescribe a treatment plan.


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This article originally appeared on Health.com
SOURCE: TIME

6 Signs Your Relationship Is Codependent


Ah, love. It can enrich our lives, provide meaning and support, and reduce stress. Healthy, intimate relationships can even help you live longer. But the pursuit of love and actually maintaining a relationship can sometimes be a source of significant pain in our lives. In other words: Love ain't always all it's cracked up to be.

Developing your own identity and solid sense of self can sound like a tall order. However, it is also the foundation we need if we are to develop a healthy relationship with another person. It would be ideal to have that in place first, but often people jump into relationships while they are still settling into their relationship with themselves. Thus, as you navigate relationships it's important to keep yourself in check and recognize some of the characteristics of a healthy relationship as well as the telltale signs your relationship is codependent.

Characteristics of a healthy relationship:

The main building block of any healthy relationship is respect—respect for yourself and respect for the other. This includes:

1. Accountability - Admit mistakes and accept responsibility.

2. TrustBe a person of your word and try to give others the benefit of the doubt.

3. HonestyCommunicate openly and truthfully.

4. CooperationAsk; don't expect. Make decisions together, and find a mutually agreeable compromise when necessary.

5. SafetyRespect each other's physical space, and allow for absolutely no intimidation or manipulation.

6. Support - Be understanding and encouraging, valuing each other's opinions and choices.

What are some telltale signs your relationship is codependent?

1. You're using the relationship to fill a void.

Similar to a drug addiction, love addiction uses love to release dopamine for pleasure and endorphins to numb pain. While those can be benefits in a healthy, balanced relationship, the need for something outside of yourself to feel OK and cope with life is a sign that it has crossed the threshold to problematic.

2. You're sacrificing parts of yourself to please your partner.

A healthy relationship should enhance the person you are and not take away from it. If you find yourself giving up parts of your identity, you are doing little service to yourself and your relationship. Oftentimes, individuals in codependent relationships will expect reciprocity in this sacrifice, not get it, and end up feeling hurt, abandoned, and resentful.

3. You lack boundaries.

If you start with a set of guidelines that set a standard for a healthy amount of time spent with the other person and engaging in other activities and soon find yourself breaking those guidelines and commitments, you might be laying the foundation for a codependent relationship. It is all about maintaining balance in your life.

4. You find it difficult or intimidating to speak your mind.

If you find it uncomfortable to say what's on your mind because you are fearful of being judged or perhaps are worried what you say will not be what the other person wants to hear, you are actually depriving yourself of the opportunity to have an open, honest relationship. An unwillingness to be honest can backfire and can in turn make you question the other person's level of honesty and openness.

5. You're obsessing in an attempt to control the relationship and the outcome.

A healthy relationship means a working relationship between two partners. Part of that includes being able to accept the fact that you may not know exactly how everything is going to turn out and navigating (and enjoying) that mysterious journey together.

6. You experience intense fear of losing the relationship.

If you have something good, it makes sense that you want to keep it in your life. But sometimes, there is a need to take a step back from the relationship and remind yourself that you are going to be OK no matter what, whether this person is in your life or not. The flight attendant trains us to put our own oxygen mask on before we help others with theirs. It is important to recognize that the other person is not your oxygen mask or your oxygen.

Recognizing the warning signs of a codependent relationship early on is half the battle. At the end of the day, the best relationships allow you to feel comfortable, secure, and free. When you and your partner each allow the other to shine brightly in your individuality and mutual respect for one another, you'll find your relationship will enrich and support the person you are rather than take away from it. And that is what love is truly all about.

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SOURCE: MindBodyGreen

Friday, May 12, 2017

Are Fresh or Frozen Fruits and Vegetables Better For You?

A diet rich in fruits and vegetables can make you a happier person.
Ever wonder when should you opt for fresh fruits and vegetables—or just go the convenient route and buy frozen?

You’re in luck: Both frozen and fresh fruits and vegetables retain their nutrients, according to a recent study from the University of Georgia.

Researchers analyzed the nutrient content of eight fruits and vegetables (broccoli, cauliflower, sweet corn, peas, green beans, spinach, blueberries, and strawberries) at six different seasonal points throughout two years. They split the produce into three different groups: Fresh, fresh-stored (meaning it sat in the fridge for five days), and frozen.

In a majority of their comparisons, the researchers found no significant difference in the nutrient content—specifically vitamin C, provitamin A, and total folate—of the fruits and vegetables. When there were differences, frozen produce was actually more likely to retain its nutrients than fresh-stored, the researchers found.

That’s because fruits and vegetables produce enzymes that quickly lead to spoiling of nutrients. Freezing them puts that process on hold, which keeps all the nutrients packed tight until you’re ready to eat them, says Carolyn Brown, M.S., R.D., a nutritionist who is not affiliated with the study.

So it’s doesn’t really matter whether you prefer fresh or frozen, as long as you’re actually incorporating enough fruits and vegetables into your meals. Getting enough produce is one of the easiest way to increase your intake of vitamins and minerals that are crucial for your brain health, immune system, skin, muscles, and more, says Brown.

But nearly 90 percent of Americans don’t eat the recommended 2-3 cups of vegetables daily, according to a 2013 study from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and about 80 percent of people don’t eat enough fruit, which is about 2 cups a day for most people.

When taste and texture really matter—say, on top of your oatmeal or as a salad topper—fresh fruit can be a better option, says Brown.

But if you’re on a budget and frequently find yourself flying out the door in the morning, frozen fruit and vegetables can be a huge time-saver.

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SOURCE: Menshealth
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Exercises You Can Do Without Leaving Your Bed

We’ve all had mornings where the alarm goes off, signaling it’s time for your workout — but you just cannot even. Or maybe you have a big day of work ahead of you, and the very act of getting out of bed is daunting and unwelcome. Here’s a compromise: instead of hitting the snooze button again, complete a short workout without actually leaving your bed. Productive procrastination anyone?

1. Hip Bridge
With your knees bent and feet planted on the bed, keep your arms at your side, squeeze your glutes together, lift your hips and hold for 1 minute.

2. Jack Knife
Lie down with your arms above your head and keep your legs straight. Lift up your legs and arms to meet, then slowly release down. Complete 15 reps.

3. Toe Touches
Start with your legs lifted to the ceiling and arms lying flat above your head, making an “L” shape with your body. Reach up vertically to touch your toes, crunching your abs in the process, and then slowly lower back to starting position. Complete 20 reps.

4. Leg lifts
Start with your legs lying flat and arms either behind your head, under your lower back, or to the side. Lift your legs up until they are perpendicular to the bed, then slowly lower back down (the slower you go the harder the workout). Bonus points if you can complete reps without touching the ground in between. Complete 20 reps.  

5. Outer thigh lifts
Lie on your right side, using your right arm to support your head, and keep your legs stacked on top of each other. Slowly lift your left leg to about a 60-degree angle from the ground, then slowly release back down without touching your right leg between reps. Complete 30 reps on each side.

6. Inner thigh lifts
Lie on your right side, and use your right arm to support your head. Bend your left leg and place your left foot over your right leg. Lift your right leg using your inner thigh, foot flexed, in tiny pulses without releasing to the bed between pulses. Complete 30 reps on each side.

7. Scissor kicks
Lie on your back, arms either under your lower back or to the sides. Lift your legs to a 45-degree angle and drop the left leg while raising the right, then raising the left and dropping the right. That’s one rep. Complete 20 reps without returning your legs to the ground. (P.S. the lower your legs to the ground, the harder the workout because your abs are working more.)

8. Planks
Try this six minute plank routine to work your abs and arms, 1 minute in each position: forearm center, right, left, then arms extended center, right, left. Your abs will have to work harder if you plank on a bed because your grounding surface isn’t as stable.

9. Butterfly Crunches
Lay on your back, heels pressed together and thighs apart, as close to touching the bed as is comfortable, with your arms supporting your head. Slowly crunch up, and then slowly release back down. Complete 25 reps.

10. Push ups
We may hate them, but face it — they’re an effective and simple workout for both your abs and your arms. Start in an extended plank position, abs tucked in and back flat. Slowly bend your arms until you are as low as you can get without dropping to the bed, and then extend back to starting. If you need to, drop to your knees instead of your toes. Complete 25 reps.

11. Stretch
Stretching is so important and a great way to start your day. Touch your toes, stretch out your arms above your head, do a few downward and upward dogs and just give some love to any muscles that might be feeling overworked. Take it easy and don’t overextend though, otherwise you might injure yourself.

These exercises are easy, equipment-free and you don’t even have to get out of bed. Whether you’re just waking up or in need of a study break, complete a few (or all!) of these to strengthen your muscles and give your brain a break. Remember to go slowly, as this actually makes your muscles work harder and will ensure your form is perfect.

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12 Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Partner Every Day

Are you stressed? Struggling to sleep? Turns out there are a number of ailments that can be cured simply by having sex regularly. Here are twelve reasons why you and your partner should be having sex daily!

1. Sex Reduces Stress.
If you’ve had a long day at work or you’re simply feeling a little overwhelmed, then sex will help you relax and reduce your stress levels! During sex our bodies produce dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin which together help us to de-stress, increases our natural happiness levels and enhances desire.

2. Sex Is An Enjoyable Exercise.
When faced with the word ‘workout’ many of us will recoil in horror, unless of course that workout involves sex. Throughout sex our bodies are continually experiencing physiological changes that are consistent with an exercise routine. Our breathing rates rise which in turn burns calories, which means that if you have sex just three times a week you can burn around 7,500 calories a year. That’s the same as running 75 miles!
‘Sex is a really great form of exercise,’ says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. CEO and medical director of Amai Wellness. ‘Like with exercise, consistency helps maximize the benefits.’
3. Sex Helps Your Immune System.
Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that their students who stated they had sex at least twice a week had higher levels of particular antibodies than those who had no sex at all. During sex, antigens like immunoglobulin A are released which are proven to fight the common cold and even flu! Even more good news: the more frequently you engage in sex the more antigens will be released and the healthier you’ll get.

4. Sex Lowers Your Blood Pressure.
Even if it’s just a quickie, some forms of physical contact can improve your blood pressure significantly. A study conducted by the University of Paisley found that sex reduces diastolic blood pressure – which is the bottom number on a blood pressure reading – making us healthier all around!

5. Sex Helps a Healthy Heart.
As our bodies burn calories, it also improves our heart health. Researchers from the New England Research Institute found that men are 45% less likely to suffer from cardiovascular diseases if they have regular sex.

6. Sex Helps Pain Relief.
If you’re experiencing aches, pains or migraines then sex may be a better form of pain relief than pills! Arthritis specialist Dr. George Erlich conducted a study on his patients and found that those who had sex often experienced significantly less pain than their counterparts who went without.

7. Sex Ensures Regular Periods.
If your periods are a bit erratic, it could be down to a stressful lifestyle. As mentioned previously, sex reduces stress and so will also have an impact on your menstrual cycle!

8. Sex Creates Powerful Pelvic Muscles.
As well as quads, back and core muscles, sex also works out your pelvic muscles! Is there a better way of building muscle? I don’t think so! By creating stronger pelvic muscles you also benefit by having better orgasms according to the National Health Service (NHS).
‘For women, as well as helping improve symptoms of urinary incontinence, strong pelvic floor muscles can also mean increased sensitivity during sex and stronger orgasms,’ the NHS states. ‘Pelvic floor exercises can also benefit men with problems such as erectile dysfunction (difficulty getting or keeping an erection) and urinary incontinence’.
9. Sex Reduces The Risk Of Cancer.
Particularly for men, regular sex reduces the chances of developing cancer. In an Australian study published the Journal of the American Medical Association, it was found that men who ejaculated at least 21 times a month were much less likely to suffer form prostate cancer.

10. Sex Makes You Sleep Well.
Like exercise, sex increases your heart rate which leads to relaxation. In addition to this, it’s common knowledge that male ejaculation leads to lethargy which can make men extremely sleepy after sex.
‘After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released,’ says Sheenie Ambardar, MD. a psychiatrist in West Hollywood, California, ‘which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and sleepiness after sex.’
11. Sex Makes You Look 10 Years Younger.
Having sex three times a week can apparently make you appear 10 years younger than your real age! In his book Secrets of the Superyoung, Scottish researcher and clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, David Weeks states: “It’s good for you to have good sex.” What more incentive do you need?

12. Sex Lengthens Your Life.
The ultimate culmination of all of these wonderful, positive effects regular sex has on our health and minds is that we will add years to our life spans. In fact, a study published in the British Medical Journal revealed that male participants who had sex regularly lived twice as long as those who rarely got any action!

So there you have it: there are officially no downsides to having sex regularly, so get at it!


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The 5 Foods That Prevent Erectile Dysfunction


Fruit and red wine may reduce your risk for erectile dysfunction, according to a new study from the UK.

Researchers tracked the diets of 25,000 men for 10 years. Just over a third of the men developed ED during the study period. 

But the guys who reported eating more than three servings a week of five key foods were 19 percent less likely to go limp than men who didn’t eat those foods. 

The five foods: Berries, oranges, red wine, apples, and pears.


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Their penis-boosting power comes from flavonoids, a family of compounds found in fruits and vegetables, says study author Aedin Cassidy, Ph.D., head of the department of nutrition at Norwich Medical School. 

Most ED cases are caused by insufficient blood flow to the penis. Some flavanoids—those found in scores in the foods mentioned above—can improve blood flow by making your arteries more flexible and opening up your blood vessels, Cassidy says.

So have a glass of red wine tonight—and then another one tomorrow, and the next day, and the next. And toast to your erection. 


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SOURCE: Menshealth
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4 Astonishingly Simple Secrets to a Happy Relationship


We can find happiness in all kinds of places, but there's perhaps nothing as special as being truly elated in the relationship with your significant other. Here we're breaking down the most important secrets to a happy partnership, according to studies that know what they're talking about. You might have heard some of these tips before, but it's time you get concrete examples of how to carry them out. Because no matter if you just got together or you've been married for five years, everyone could use a little guidance.

1. Communicate Better

We all know this, but what you might not know is that even the smallest things make a big difference.

  • Couples who make important decisions or argue not through texting but by actually talking are better off. Who woulda thought?
  • People in successful relationships just talk to each other a whole lot, i.e. five hours more a week than those in less happy relationships.
  • It's OK to get mad at each other (duh) but those who are honest about their feelings from the start of a relationship are better off long-term.
  • Happy couples try to defuse tension and fights by showing humor or affection or compromising. Unhappy couples? They criticize, roll their eyes, and name call. Not good.

2. Don't Be Boring

Happiness leads to more happiness, after all.

  • Laugh with each other! That's what happy couples do, and it's among the top three reasons for relationship success. Here's an idea: go to comedy shows together, see funny movies, or host game nights.
  • Pairs who have positive interactions every day are more likely to win at life. Examples? Cooking together; giving a compliment; showing you care by leaving a nice note.
  • Reliving memories together when you both shared laughter is good for your companionship. So simple but so effective.
  • So is sharing a new experience together, be it big (taking a trip) or small (taking a walk around the neighborhood). Hooray!

3. Support Each Other

The lesson: we all want to feel celebrated, but especially from our partners.

  • Get ready to pop some Champagne. Significant others who are proud of the other's achievements and cheer one another on are happier than those who are less enthusiastic about big news.
  • And those who not only congratulate ("Good job, honey!") but also ask questions and relive the experience with their S.O. are happier, too.

4. Knock the Boots

How many times have you said, "Maybe tomorrow night"? Stop that right now! (This playlist will help.)

  • Is this a surprise? Having sex once a week as opposed to once a month increases relationship happiness.
  • The happiest couples, though, have sex two to three times a week. Va va voom!



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SOURCE: Popsugar
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Long Work Hours May Hurt Health—Especially for Women


Years of working long hours may help you climb the career ladder, but those hours may take a steep toll on your health—and that's especially true for women, new research says.

"People who habitually put in a lot of long hours for many years, even decades, are really running an increased risk of potentially seeing chronic disease later in life," said study researcher Allard Dembe. He's a professor of health services management and policy at the College of Public Health at Ohio State University.

The link between long work hours and disease ''seems to be present a bit in men but is tremendously more evident in women," said Dembe. While the study cannot prove cause and effect, he said, the associations were strong in women.

When the researchers compared men who worked more than 60 hours a week to those who worked 30 to 40, they found those who worked the longer hours had more than twice the risk of getting osteoarthritis or rheumatoid arthritis.

But men's risk for other chronic or serious diseases didn't go up substantially. In fact, those who worked 41 to 50 hours had a lower risk of heart disease, lung disease and depression, researchers noted.

But when the study compared women who worked 30 to 40 hours a week to those who worked more than 60 hours a week, women who worked more had substantially higher rates of disease. Women who worked 60 or more hours had more than three times the risk of heart disease, non-skin cancer and diabetes, nearly three times the risk of asthma, and nearly four times the risk of arthritis, the study showed.

The risks for women began to climb when they worked more than 40 hours and escalated above 50 hours. The gender differences were surprising, Dembe said, as was the strength of the increased risks he found for women.

The study included information on the working habits of nearly 7,500 U.S. men and women over more than three decades. Most of the study volunteers were over 50 toward the end of the study.

The researchers then looked to see if there was any link between work hours and the diagnosis of eight different diseases. These included heart disease, non-skin cancer, arthritis, diabetes, chronic lung disease, asthma, depression and high blood pressure, the study said.

Twenty-eight percent of those in the study worked 30 to 40 hours weekly. Most people—56 percent—in the study worked 41 to 50 hours a week, the study said. Thirteen percent put in 51 to 60 hours weekly, while 3 percent toiled for 60 hours or more a week, the study found.

Dembe could not explain why more work hours seemed to have such an impact on women's health, but believes that women's multiple roles are at the root. "My speculation is, they have to balance all these other roles, parenting, child care, domestic responsibilities, worrying about everyone's health care," he said.

Working the long hours can interfere with sleep and keep the body in a constant state of stress, Dembe said.

The study findings make sense, said cardiologist Dr. Nieca Goldberg. She's medical director of the Joan H. Tisch Center for Women's Health at New York University Langone Medical Center, in New York City.

"These women [who log long work weeks] are not taking care of themselves," Goldberg speculated. "Maybe they are not going to screening tests [such as mammograms].'' Working long hours and taking care of a family may leave little time to prepare meals, she said, so these women may be eating and serving their family fast food or other takeout that is unhealthy.

Women working long hours who are single mothers may have even more responsibilities and stress, she said.

So, what can women do to protect their health? "Obviously, people need to work and pay their rent," Goldberg said. However, she tells women who work long hours to step back and take stock. Is there something they can cut out? Perhaps doing less volunteer work until the work load on the job declines?

Goldberg said taking some time for yourself every day is crucial. That could mean getting some exercise, reading a book, watching TV or even just sitting doing deep breathing. "Clear your head," she said.


The study was published in the Journal of Occupational and Environmental Medicine.
SOURCE: Health.com
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The 5 Worst Sex Positions Ever


It might be time to mix things up in the bedroom. We surveyed over 1,200 Women’s Health readers about your least favorite sex positions, and women rated common moves like doggy style, reverse cowgirl, and 69 as the worst.

Chances are, those sex staples have been in your arsenal for a while now. So we consulted with top experts to uncover why these five positions just aren’t cutting it—and the upgrades you must make to satisfy your sex drive. 

1. DOGGY STYLE

Why you're not into it: Put simply, it’s too painful. Your guy may be ramming your cervix, "which is why deep penetration is often more harmful than hot,” says Sara Gottfried, M.D., OB/GYN, author of The Hormone Cure.

Plus, if he's fully removing himself, then re-entering you, it often hurts your chances at staying fully lubricated, Dr. Gottfried explains.

Women in our survey also said doggy’s not intimate enough. Even though rough sex can be awesome if you’re both into it, most women are looking for more of a connection during sex, Dr. Gottfried says.

And we all know your view of the bed when you're in this position isn’t nearly as stimulating as the view he's enjoying.

How to fix it: To prevent the bump and grind from getting painful, keep his thrusts short and shallow, rather than deep and fast.

Shallow thrusts will stimulate the front third of your vagina, which is the most sensitive part, says Rebecca Rosenblat, a sex therapist and the author of Seducing Your Man.

Up the intimacy factor by having him run his hands through your hair, and down your spine, and encourage him to occasionally lean forward to kiss and suck on your neck.

And don’t forget the clitoral stimulation, Dr. Gottfried advises. Just because he's focusing on your backside, doesn’t mean he should neglect your most sensitive spots.

Watch men and women come up with names for these adventurous sex positions:


2. WOMAN ON TOP

Why you're not into it: According to our survey, a majority of women feel more self-conscious when they’re on top.

And even though your guy probably think you look like a rock star, we know even the tiniest shred of doubt can put out your fire.

How to fix it: Switch into a side-by-side position like “The Spork.” Lie on your back, and raise your right leg.

Slot him between your legs at a 90-degree angle and have him ease inside. This way, your legs will form the tines of a spork utensil.

3. REVERSE COWGIRL

Why you're not into it: Because it’s hard for you to climax like that—and not everything fits when you're riding in reverse.

“Reverse cowgirl may seem sexy and adventurous, but when [he] actually tries to enter [you], things might not fit the way you think that they should,” says Jen Landa, M.D., Chief Medical Officer of BodyLogicMD and author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women.

It often boils down to the curvature of his penis not coinciding with the angle of your vagina, Dr. Landa says. Realistically, any time he bends his penis too far at the base, it’s also not only uncomfortable for you, it becomes dangerous for him.

In other words, he could break his junk.

How to fix it: Switch to doggy. The fit’s more practical, and he can help you reach orgasm, says Dr. Landa.

But if you still want the naughtiness factor, put the doggy to bed. Do this: Stand up, bend forward, and place your hands on a stable mirror, then have him enter you from behind. 

He'll still be able to manually stimulate you, but now you can both use the mirror to your advantage.

4. MISSIONARY

Why you're not into it: It doesn’t hit the right spots. Plus, if he's on the smaller end of the spectrum, this position doesn't really accentuate his size, Dr. Landa says.

How to fix it: Try using the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)—just don't call it that in bed. The position is similar to missionary, except his body is farther up and to one side. (So rather than being chest to chest, his chest is near your shoulders.)

Bend your legs about 45 degrees to tilt your hips up, which causes the base of his shaft to maintain constant contact with your clitoris.

Even though the name is a mouthful, the move is proven to work: Women who were unable to climax in regular missionary were 56 percent more likely to climax using CAT, according to a study from the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.

5. 69

Why you're not into it: You're, well, preoccupied. According to our survey results, women say it’s too difficult to focus on receiving pleasure when they have to concentrate on giving it.

And pleasure and reaching climax is heavily determined by your mental state, Dr. Landa says. So it becomes difficult to relax and enjoy his oral skills if you're trying to take care of his needs at the same time.

How to fix it: If you want to get the most out of oral sex, you’re better off taking turns giving and receiving.

Many women claim 69 feels anonymous to them, because they want their partner to be able to look them in the eyes and feel a connection, says Gottfried.

If he sticks to giving first, you're way more likely to enjoy yourself. 


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The article The 5 Worst Sex Positions Ever originally appeared on Men’s Health.
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